SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 8, 2009

i regret that i ever started cutting myself. 2 years, 1 hospital visit, and 6 months of therapy later and it is still all that i think about.

f/17

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SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 7, 2009

I regret being lazy, and sending you to the store with our daughter to get some ice cream. I regret that I didn't believe the police officer who came to our door 2 hours later to tell me about the accident.
I regret that I no longer get to reach out for you at night, or to argue about who is going to check on Lily at 3 in the morning.
I regret that your lives were cut so short, and that I am now stuck here, alone, and hurting.

I miss you both so, so much. I regret not knowing how to move past this.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 6, 2009

I regret you ever having found that awful poem written about you.
I regret having been the one to write it in the first place.
I thought i was just expressing myself, though I wonder if it was just a cry for attention.
we were never the same after that.
But I love you mom.
I regret how it has effected your trust in me.
How you feel so insecure now.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 5, 2009

I regret wanting you so badly. I regret letting my love for you consume what we had and what I was about. But mostly, I regret telling you what I felt every step of the way.. because I felt that, if I didn't, I'd lose you. And now I've lost you to her. I knew you'd eventually find someone else, and I knew it would hurt. It does sting, but I'm truly glad that you're happy. My only regret about your happiness... is that it's not with me.

I'm going to move on. And I'm going to get over you. But it's going to take a lot of time and love from someone else to make you disappear. And, honestly? I wish that I'd never met you. because you're perfect for me, and I'm better off with you.
The worst part is.. I hope you see my face when you're with her, taste my lips when you kiss her, hear my heart and smell my perfume when you lay with her, and feel my warmth when you hold her.
I'm bitter. But you'll be erased from my mind someday. And someday can't come soon enough.

You'll regret that you lost me.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 4, 2009

I regret not knowing myself before my 13 year marriage.

Knowing that I'm a sex addict having to fight that everyday most often losing to it.

I dont want this and when I found theres no cure made it worse. I try so hard...

(Before you judge you dont know what I go through everday.)

32 Male

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 3, 2009

I regret every day not loving you as much as you love me. I stay with you for the security, and I adore you- but I've loved harder and fuller. I regret not trying harder every day to be the person you think I am.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 2, 2009

Dad,
I regret the way I made you feel when I was younger. The things I said to you, the tantrums I threw.

I was young and stupid, and couldn't handle the things she was telling me. She was in the wrong, not you. A 12 year old shouldn't hear the things she told me. You never acted the way she did and tried to manipulate my feelings towards her. She pulled it day in and day out.

I regret believing her.

I regret that I didn't just ask you about it.

I regret that you think the reason why I'm so messed up is because of you. You are my rock. You always have been, and always will be, there for me. I need you, and I need you to know how sorry I am.

I regret that I can't say these things to you. I know you would forgive me, but I'll never forgive myself.

Out of all of my regrets, the one I wish I could take back the most is making you feel like a bad father.

Dad, I love you more than words can express.

I hope you forgive me, though I could never handle hearing those words.

F/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 1, 2009

I regret not figuring it out earlier. For years I only thought about the negatives of life. I only thought about why my life was bad when really life is amazing.

There are so many beauties to life and people and just everything. Now that I've sat back and really looked at things I wish I had seen what I know now sooner.

I love life, and every aspect of it. Good and bad. I regret ever wallowing in pain when I could have been partying or laughing or enjoying all the little things.

Never let sadness or pain cloud your perspective. Live.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 31, 2009

I regret not being able to prove that I don't need sex. You're only deployed for 6 months and I could only last for 4 of them. Mostly it's made me realize, I regret marrying someone that, when I cheat, makes me realize I simply don't care enough about us to not give in to my urges. I'm sorry you love me because I think I married you just to prove that I didn't

a) have to be pregnant like my parents and grandparents were and

b) that I can make it work...

I love you, I do. I'm just not sure how f'd up my idea of love is. I regret not making that clear before we got married.

-19/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 30, 2009

I regret not kicking you when you were down, but instead helping you back up.

Not only should I have kicked you, but beat you unconscious and left you for the wolves like you did me.

F/25

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 29, 2009

I regret saying I didn't like the ring and I didn't like the way you proposed. It was shallow and stupid of me. I know you did the best you could for me and I was still ungrateful and I've always felt horrible for it. Because now, I wish for nothing more than you to put a ring on my finger and call me your fiance again.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 28, 2009

I'm a 50 year old man. I regret that I've never had the courage to cheat on my passionless marriage. Though I've fathered 7 children, I've never had sex with hunger; I've never torn at a woman's clothes with urgency and desire; I've never examined a woman's body and reveled in the beauty, the softness; I've never felt a woman shiver with delight in my arms; I've never left the light on. I have never known how it feels to be desired. I regret that I've been a faithful husband for 30 years to a woman who doesn't know that I'm a man.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 27, 2009

I regret that you have to leave me.

I have walked thru hell in my few years on this planet and on the other side of divorce and betrayal and cancer and radiation and 50lb weight loss and hair loss and not even feeling like a woman anymore I found you.

You came with your own set of obstacles but after all I had been thru it seemed like a cake walk. I know what people around us say. Like any interracial couple our own people look at us like traitors and we are stereotyped by everyone else. It's the hardest thing I have ever done at times, but I love you so, so much.

You made me laugh when I was sad, you were at every surgery, biopsy, test, all the things that shake me to the core you were beside me and you never had to be. When I was too sick to eat and losing too much weight you were there to convince me to take 2 more bites. I guess what I am trying to say is that I have come to depend on you.

I regret that because you got in a car accident (which can happen to anyone any day so count your blessings) when you were 18 (over a decade ago) that you are now a felon.

I regret that even tho I am a single mother and completely alone in this world I could not get help with my medical bills. I never wanted any sort of public assistance just a medical card and I made about 40 dollars a month too much. Now I am stuck with around 300,000 dollars in medical bills and have no credit.

I regret that after 6 months of begging landlords and apartment complexes that no one would rent to a black felon and a white girl with that much debt.

Things are not always what they seem.

I regret that I am losing my true love, and the only person I have had on my side thru out all of this.

Happy 1st anniversary Big Daddy, I regret that come tomorrow you will be on a Train to Illinois with my heart and I will never see you again.

24/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 26, 2009

I regret letting you (dad) and my brother belittle me to the point of feeling I have no self worth. And driving me to almost killing myself. I regret not having enough strength to fight back and telling you I am here and a great person. I regret not speaking up when my brother beat me and hurt me.I regret letting this run my life for 25 years and not allowing me to find all the happiness I deserve I regret dad not being the man you thought I should be , because I choose to be educated and not a construction worker like you and my brother . I had other goals for myself and i have filled them all with out your love and respect.I regret not telling mom before she died how you treated me and made me feel...she always knew but never understood as I choose to keep quiet out of fear.. I regret not explaining to my love, my wife, why I was so distant at time when i should have spoke my mind.. she deserved more then silence. I regret my family could not see how wonderful I am and how great my wife and kids are as here too I kept silent. I regret not seeking help to handle my pain so i could release my anger and move on. Last of all I regret losing mom before she could see me happy.

45/male

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 25, 2009

I regret that I have ABSOLUTELY NO confidence in my body.

You are a 24 year old male who wants his girlfriend to prance around in a bikini and I regret that I'm a 21 year old girl who can't do that. Swimming is one of your favorite pastimes and I regret having to go on about how much I HATE swimming, just so I don't have to say I really won't go because I am too embarrassed. I regret that ALL of your friends and their friends have swimming parties and river trips that I can't go to because I would feel like a whale around all those thinner girls. I regret that you honestly believe I would look just as good, but you only think that because I try to hide myself and we only have sex in the dark.

I regret that I'm supposed to be in the prime of my life, but I can't even wear a pair of shorts and I won't wear a skirt or dress without tights underneath. Not just for you, but for me as well.

I regret that I can't just make the best of what I have. I regret with every ounce of my being that I want so much to look like those girls on lookbook or all over television and the media... because it's physically impossible.

I regret that I think mirrors lie to me, when I do appear to look good.

I wish I could be free of this body.

21/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 24, 2009

I regret not being a better daughter. I am so selfish sometimes and you always end up being my verbal punching bag. You take it everytime with such elegance because you love me so much. I know. I know that I am your life and even when I treat you in ways that a daughter should never treat her mother, you put up with me because for you, love is unconditional. Love is unconditional for me too, and I know that no one in this world will ever love me like you do. I will be better. I will be better

F/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 23, 2009

I regret when you came to me the night before your wedding, crying and telling me that it should have been me. I regret telling you that you should go ahead and marry her, because she's having your baby.

If I could take it back now, I would.

Because after 12 years, you're still the only person I want to be with.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 22, 2009

I regret letting you walk all over me for four years of my life. You were supposed to be my best friend but now I realize you were barely a friend at all. You made me feel like crap about myself by showing off all your new clothes and pretending like you hated the attention guys gave you. You are gorgeous and always have been and we both know it but you pretended like you were insecure so I would reassure you that you were indeed beautiful without ever boosting my confidence in return. You have no idea how much you hurt me by choosing him over me. I regret being hurt by you when you left the country numerous time to see him but wouldn't drive 20 mins to see me. I regret staying up all night countless nights trying to console you when I was on my own with my problems. I regret letting you get to me. I forgot who I was because i was always trying to compete with you. I regret letting everything become a competition, how many friends we had, or how cool our clothes were, how cute the boys we dated were or who got their license first, all of these things were competitions with you and i regret allowing myself to fall into them. I regret not opening my eyes to see who you really are and walking away because I lost a lot of myself in the process. I don't regret giving up on our friendship after you ditched me consistently for over a year but I do regret allowing myself to get excited to see you time and time again when I knew deep down you were only going to hurt me. I regret that you are in 99% of my pictures from high school, but at least I can use them as reference for what not to look for in a friend. I regret that it had to come to this, I wish I hadn't wasted my time trying to please you, I should have been trying to please myself.

I'm not going to have any more regrets when it comes to you, I'm far happier now, I'm confident in myself and I don't need you bringing me back down.

19/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 21, 2009

I regret that I don't know any of you, and I keep feeling tears prickle when I read your confessions. I want to help, but I know that I probably wouldn't be able to. I've never been so affected by the words of a stranger.

With all my heart, I regret your pain.

I regret that I don't have the chance to love you, because no one needs it more than you and I.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 20, 2009

i regret staying in the car while my favorite cat was put down.
i know he was in pain.
i know he must have been so scared.
he was the only friend i had for so long. the bond between people and their pets is amazing.
i regret not being strong enough.
:(

F/17

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 19, 2009

my biggest regret? it's not even difficult for me to think of one. it's been eating at me for months now and it kills me everytime it comes to mind. i completely regret fighting with my mom in january. telling her she was worthless, and that i hated her. i regret not calling or writing to her on her birthday in march. or answering my phone when she called on my birthday in april. eleven days later she committed suicide and i ask myself every day whether i could have been the deciding factor in that choice she made. if only i could go back and tell her that i love her. i miss you mummah. with all my heart. and it kills me to know that you're gone.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 18, 2009

I regret choosing him, because he looked good on paper, when I was so, so in Love with you.

You and I were best friends that happened to fall in Love. When you would touch me, it sent chills down my spine. I never felt that with him.

It's been three years, and you still are not going out with anyone, but I married the guy that looked good on paper -- the guy who cheated on me, lied to me, and is now divorcing me.

I regret that right now, I could be in your arms and in your Love, but am not because I chose a different path.

I regret that I could not stop Loving you, and that you still haunt me every day.

If only... if only you would still Love me after what I did... if only you could forgive me...


F/24

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 17, 2009

I regret using shopping as a way of dealing with my unhappiness in the past. Now I'm truly happy in my life situation, but my past mistakes are still being paid for, literally. I regret that I will still be paying for my past unhappiness for many years to come and that I feel like I'm completely drowning in debt.
33/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 16, 2009

I regret the small minded people i'm faced with every day at work. I regret that I let there bitchy,two faced rants behind closed doors to constantly boil up inside me but never get out. I regret that she will always think she's getting away with it,she'll always think that she's playing the game,on everybody's side when really everyone feels sorry for her.

I regret that my last day is a long time from now. But trust me,when it is, I will tell every single idiot how I really feel-destroy their image of me being sweet, nice and reliable.

I'll be sure to shock them all!

F/in unhappy job/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 15, 2009

I regret not being true to myself a long time ago.

I regret not coming out and proclaiming who I am. I am a lesbian. I let a few people in and told them that I was bisexual over the last 8 years, but not many. I was afraid and so I kept dating men and kept getting into relationships with men who would abuse me and cheat on me, and treat me like a doormat. It took me meeting her, and finding what true love is, to realize that I am strong enough to be myself

I came out to my family and all of my friends, with minimal fallout. It's nice to know that I was loved unconditionally. I just regret not letting everyone know who I was a long time ago. It would have saved me so much pain and suffering.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 14, 2009

I regret not being able to tell you that I don't want you in my life.

You are the "parent" you should be involved in my life, you should have been involoved in my childhood.

Instead of watching me grow up, you did the things that you wanted to do. You slipped farther into an addiction, rather than into fatherhood. You broke promise after promise to me, making me come home from your house crying to my mom. I regret that my mom had to tell me why you broke those promises.

I regret ever giving you that second, third, fourth and hundreds of other chances.

I regret still calling you my dad, when I have an amazing step-dad who would give me the world in a heartbeat.

I regret no telling you any of this. Enjoy your trip to hell.

f/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 13, 2009

I regret that I was the other woman. I opened up a Pandora's Box of pain for her and for me. I won him and then he proceeded to cheat on me. He even cheated on me with her, the woman I stole him from. He hurt me in so many ways, physically, mentally, emotionally. I stayed for so long. Break ups and getting back together, when I knew I should stay away. I kept doing this until I finally didn't. I finally met someone else who allowed me to be myself and who loves me.

The silver lining, in apologizing to her, the one I stole him from, we started to talk. We even became friends. We also both realized exactly how long you really did play us both.

I regret giving you that control over me. I regret letting you hurt me. I regret hurting another woman. I regret devaluing myself.

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SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 12, 2009

I regret not being there for you as much as I could have when your mom was dying.

I regret that the only way I could think to comfort you was to introduce you to cocaine.

I regret that I kept giving you cocaine.

I regret taking care of your brother while you were out doing god knows what and your dad was in the hospital.

I regret not really asking what was wrong.

I regret not getting you help.

I regret not telling your dad what a mess you were.

I regret that I didn't stay over on the first mother's day.

I regret that I left even though I knew something was wierd.

I regret not texting you to make sure that you fell asleep.

I regret that I woke up and went to work the next day without checking in with you.

I regret that I didn't answer the phone when your dad called.

I regret that I found out on Facebook that my best friend had killed herself.

I regret not going to your house to see your family.

I regret not going to your funeral to say good bye.

I regret that I still hate you for leaving me.

I regret that you are dead and I am not.

You had so much to give.

f/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 11, 2009

I regret never telling anyone about the molestation. I know I was a kid, a scared and confused kid, but telling someone, ANYONE, instead of just pretending it didn't happen, would have saved me a lot of heartache. Trying to heal 12 years after the fact is ridiculously difficult.

I regret all the time I've lost.

Female, 18

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 10, 2009

I regret not telling my boyfriend that i cheated on him while he was overseas fighting in the war. We are still together 2 years later and he still does not know. I regret that I am too selfish to tell him because I know it would end everything.

22/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 9, 2009

i regret so much in my life but mostly i regret being the child that could never please my mother. i regret not being pretty enough or skinny enough or smart enough i regret never being good enough to please you mom. i regret that yes i screwed my life up i regret feeling so alone that i had to hide my teen pregnancy from you. i regret the fact that now i only want to hear you say that im a good mother and all i get is how horrible i am ( even though you are about the only one to think so) and for some reason you are the only person i want approval from!!! I REGRET THAT YOU HATE ME FOR WHO I AM and i regret caring what you think ( and im a grown woman ) i regret feeling alone to this day

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 8, 2009

i regret being the over-achiever. i regret trying so hard to live up to your expectations of having a daughter go to a good college. i regret ever coming to this god forsaken place to begin with; maybe had i gone to a public college you'd see the difference in the work load and ease up on me-every one of my 3 learning disabilities take their toll on my grades and confidence. i regret trying and succeeding-only to fail in your eyes.

Mom, i regret not being what you wanted or expected; i regret not having the courage to disappoint you even more and just say "i wanna switch schools and come home, this place makes me miserable."

Most of all i regret the effects my unhappiness and your disappointment has caused to our relationship-i miss us being close and talking about everything. im sorry Mom, i miss you <3

F-19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 7, 2009

I regret taking that bottle of pills last November.

I regret waking up in the hospital with them telling me that I needed to be sent to a special hospital.

I regret that long week. I hated that place. Those girls. Those doctors. Those groups. Those beds. Those showers.

After all of this, most of all, I regret telling my social worker that my dad was innocent and was not the cause.

He was.

17/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 6, 2009

I don't regret telling our parents you were doing drugs 5 years ago.. I don't regret making you feel bad about your coke habit, and have you look into Mom's eyes and see how scared she was. I don't regret it at all..
Because you stopped..
I had to do something, and you were incapable of listening.

Maybe I should have tried harder to reach out to you, but you don't even realize how far gone you were.

What I regret the most is knowing that you still occasionally do drugs. And now I don't have the courage to confront you and tell you how much of an idiot I think you are, still doing this.
"You've got it under control" - it's BS!
And you don't tell me about it - I hear it from friends.

I regret not being able to just beg you to stop. Do you not realize how scared I am for you? And how all this is affecting our younger brother - he's only 19 and you're his hero.
Please just stop being so irresponsible with your life, you are far too important to us!
I love you big brother!

F, 24

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 5, 2009

I regret that you can't leave your marriage for me.

I regret not forcing you to leave your marriage for me.

I regret that you have to take time away from your son in order to be with me and my son.

I regret not giving my son's middle name your first name, after all, he is your child.

I regret that your family will never know this special little boy that means the world to me.

I regret that he will never grow up knowing his father as well as his half brother will.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 4, 2009

I regret not saying even one word to you at our pathetic ten-year high school reunion. I had a couple opportunities, but I didn't say one thing.

You are as damaged as you ever were but I could have said something, not sure what....

You treated me like a piece of crap through high school: it was a true love/hate relationship, but I stuck by you and I wanted your love so desperately. Knowing now that you are bisexual (most likely gay) lessens the pain of that old rejection somewhat. Not to mention that I'm happily married and you are alone.

Since you are an alcoholic I don't expect you to make it to the 20 year reunion, so I bet that was my one and only chance to say anything to you for the rest of eternity. I couldn't even say "hello" because I thought you would hurt me again....

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 3, 2009

I regret making fun of you in sixth grade Maggie. I regret that I stayed up with a friend and thought of fat jokes that we could say to you the next day. I can't believe what a horrible little kid I was. I still think about it 14 years later. I wish for the day when I can tell you how sorry I am. What's more, I wish that if that day were to come you would tell me to get over myself because it didn't affect you at all.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 2, 2009

i went through life for 25 years never knowing who you were, except for a little piece of random memory. i regret wanting to find about you, because when we met,it gave you a second chance to leave me.

i regret ever being curious about you, dad. i regret meeting you.im so embarassed still.

f/27

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: October 1, 2009

I was there when the doctor told you about the cancer. I held your hand as you cried and screamed "I don't want to die".

We shared more after that than ever. I loved the time we spent. I'll never regret that...

But I do regret running when it got bad. You didn't know me. And it hurt.

I regret practically living with my girlfriend whom you didn't approve of. Were apart now.

I regret the day hospice came the most. Because I left the house and didn't come back that night...

And you didn't live to see me the next day.

I regret abandoning you in your final days.

I miss you and love you Mom.

24 M

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 30, 2009

I regret friending you on facebook.

Now I see your life without me every time you post a status update.

Technology means never having to say goodbye forever... but I'd rather do that.

Female, 20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 29, 2009

I regret going away with our toddler son that weekend - and that I didn't beg you to come.

I regret that you were either too dumb or too involved in what you were doing to realize that the email you were sending didn't go through your private yahoo mail account but through our SHARED "home" account. I regret ever having our shared email address forwarded to my work email.

I regret ever reading that email... you know, the one where you responded to a Craigslist add for a man-on-man encounter!

I regret feeling like I have to hold this marriage together because of stepchildren I so love but have no "claim" to. So if I leave you what's to happen with my relationship with them?

I regret that I love and trust you... that I'm looking for a valid reason why you would contact a man for a sexual encounter - even after you swear that you were just "messing around". I regret that I'm beating myself up trying to figure out if there's something wrong with me that would make my husband look at gay encounter ads. That's not normal for a straight man is it? I regret not knowing the answer to that.

I regret that I can't just wipe the whole thing from my memory... or that I can't just get up and walk away.

f/29

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 28, 2009

You were a baby, I was 18, my boyfriend violent.. I regret being to scared to stand up for me and you, instead they took you away. That was 20 years ago, I think about you every day. I regret my other children will never know you, their sister...

I regret that you will never know that although I had lost you to another family, you were the one that gave me the courage to leave in the end!!

I regret the years that followed with your brothers and sister and how scared I was to love them in case I messed it up!!

I regret the pain this has caused so many people, but most of all I regret the pain it has caused you.

When I found you on the internet, I could not believe the pain you were causing yourself and the harm you were doing to your soul.

I regret not telling you that your online friend was me... I'm sorry, I always will be sorry... but what can I do now!!!????

It's too late...........

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 27, 2009

I regret pushing all of my friends away because I wanted it to be easier for them when I killed myself.

I still have every intention of doing so, but now I'm alone and have no one to help me.
I regret not seeking help before I had devised an elaborate plan. I regret the boxes upon boxes of tissues used to wipe my pointless tears.

f/17

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 26, 2009

I regret being so addicted to my new computer that I neglected you both so much while you were still so little. I will never forgive myself. Nothing will ever make up for that and now, I wont ever have anymore babies to enjoy.

F/31

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 25, 2009

I regret having given myself to you. Its not that you were a bad person or that you weren't in love with me- I knew you weren't. I didn't love you either.

I was too young to have given my body to someone I hardly knew. Not only that, but I continued to go back to you only to fulfill my sexual needs. I would apologize for that but you used me too.

Now that I have found who I think is the one, I regret that I cant give him my all, emotionally and intimately.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 24, 2009

I'm 35 years old, female, and I made the wrong choice because I was willing to "settle" and get married. BIG MISTAKE. I am emotionally divorced from my verbally abusive spouse.
If I had waited or moved, I think we could have made it. We are two peas in a pod and I have had that with no one else. Now you have found someone and it breaks my heart. Every day I make my commute, I think about us and wonder why I made the wrong choice. There is nothing to do now but cry. I miss our texts and calls, but I've put that behind me. (I think.)

September 23, 2009

i regret telling you i wasnt pregnant when i really was..

his name was drake...

he is my angel..

23*f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 22, 2009

I regret constantly thinking that if I was prettier, you would love me. I regret believing that if my hair was red, you would find me gorgeous. Maybe if I had bigger boobs, a bigger nose and a smaller waistline, you'd finally think I was more than cute. You'd see me more than just that friend. That friend that will always listen to you and always think you're great. That friend that is a bit more of a little sister than someone you could think of in a romantic way.

I regret all of this.

I regret it because deep down I know that you would never ever love the real me.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 21, 2009

I regret meeting you.
Because I'm too afraid to leave you.
I'm afraid you'll hurt me.
And I have no where to go.
Sometimes I think of excuses to leave you.

I even thought of hiring someone to flirt with you.

You promised to never leave me.
You gave me a black eye when you were drunk.
You cried for forgiveness.
You begged to have me back.
I had a chance to leave you,
But I forgave you.

I regret meeting you.
Because I'll be stuck with you the rest of my life.
I'll never had a chance to live my young days like you did.
I've already become a wife.

I regret meeting you.
Because you're almost perfect.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 20, 2009

There is a man that always follows me but he doesn't exist. I can feel his eyes on my back and his hands around my neck. I don't know what he looks like because he is only a shadow.

I regret not telling anyone and forcing myself to live like this.

I don't know if he was real at one point or will be real in the future. But I have this overwhelming feeling that he has hurt me already.

I think this is a dark part of my childhood coming back at me. I regret being too scared to ask someone for answers.

19/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 19, 2009

I regret putting those videos on YouTube and Facebook. I regret singing in them. Now, as a freshman in high school, I am ridiculed daily for doing so. I definitely regret letting their snide comments get to me and crying over them. I shouldn't care. But I do. A lot. And I regret that.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 18, 2009

I regret that some days I feel like I made a bad decision marrying an Army boy. I hate you being gone and hate that I thought I was strong enough to handle it. I love you with all of my heart and it is so unfortunate that the Army is the only reason we even got together in the first place. I miss you so much everyday and I know you miss me too. I wish I could end the war and bring you home to sleep in our bed again. A year is so long to not see or touch each other. I'd kill for even the smallest hug, any day. I regret that I tried to convince you to reenlist in two years because I wanted to travel. I'm now perfectly okay with you getting out so we can live "normal" lives. I love you and I need you home, please stay safe.



19/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 17, 2009

I regret:

Feeling like I have to use people to advance in life.

I regret not changing my gender at an earlier age than 19.

I regret having to worry for the rest of my life if I'm going to be "found out" about my past as a male, especially since I am now starting to become recognized.

I regret loving prescription sedatives as much as I do.

I regret not being able to open up to a "friend" in real life & having to resort to anonymously posting my feelings on this website.

I regret that most people don't appreciate what they have until it's too late. Please have gratitude!

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 16, 2009

I regret letting chances pass me by because I'm terrified of failing or looking stupid. I'm tired of my constant anxiety and fear.
I regret thinking it's ok to drink to feel better or take drugs to feel sane.
I regret making myself crazy, to the point of no return.

19/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 15, 2009

I regret that I cheated on you. I'm so sorry.

We were unhappy. I was still pretty closeted about being bisexual, I was scared for the world to know about us. I loved you, I really did. I regret only wanting to kiss you in private.

You were unkind. You were controlling. You had this godawful holier-than-thou attitude. But I loved you.
I regret not seeing these red flags in your personality.
If I had, I would not have gotten so deeply involved.
I would not have hurt you.
And you would not have hurt me.

Cheating on you was wrong, sleazy, and dishonest. I do not regret that we ended.
I only regret how it played out.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 14, 2009

I regret looking through the files my parents have on me.

I didn't know why I went to therapy since I was in kindergarten and still do.

Now I don't want to know.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 13, 2009

It's been a sobering afternoon. Reading everyone's regrets, feeling my own and staring out the window still wondering how I got here.

No, not wondering how, I have the visual memories of that, but rather why: I'm still looking for that answer.

I'm cognizant enough to know that things are, and will, be better; but I'm impatient, I'm still waiting for the life vest as I still feel like I'm drowning.

I fear that although the guilt continues to haunt me and I still wrestle with the emotional effects, that it will all one day catch up to me and I will always be left with heartache and the punishment of my mistakes.

I see myself in the last few recent attempts at a relationship and wonder if I will ever transfer the rational, realistic, smart behavior that I say and think into my actions. I know I contribute a majority of the nonsense to the relationships. I know in my head I've learned from my mistakes but I see myself making them again and again, wondering when I will finally act upon it. I can't help but to question if I will be capable of a true loving relationship.

I know part of the recovery is saying certain things aloud; telling another person. but I'm so fearful of the rejection and disgust that will result from the honesty. That's not who I truly was, it's not who I want to be, and it certainly is not how I want to treat others or want to be treated myself. Yet, I still did it and constantly wonder how I was capable of it. Scares me that there are things about my own self that I didn't know I was capable of; I didn't know such awfulness dwelled within me.

I pray every day, every day, that I have learned from my mistakes in hopes for a better future.

OK, HERE IS MY REGRET:

I became a whore when my husband stopped giving me attention and eventually stopped loving me. He divorced me 3 years ago and still doesn't know what I did behind his back; but I know.

F/30

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 12, 2009

I regret having an affair. It was years ago, you found out about it and you've forgiven me for it and our marriage is stronger than most I know. Nevertheless I spend a portion of everyday feeling guilty, wondering how you can really forgive me for such a huge betrayal. You understand me, you understand the situation and you love me more than I deserve. I regret that I'll spend the rest of my life making MYSELF feel guilty and unworthy because of it. And because of the nature of the situation, I'm scared to bring it up and try to talk to you about it because that feels like betraying you yet again. I regret that this is going to eat me alive for the rest of my life.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 11, 2009

I regret that when I called you on your birthday, I couldn't be there to make you laugh.

You've helped me find that light in my life that was snuffed out for so long, and always believed in me. Let me break down your walls and help you find what's inside of you. It's so much easier to face the dark with a hand to hold.

24f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 10, 2009

I regret not taking college seriously. I partied the entire time and ended up pregnant my senior year. Looking back, I could have done so much more, but I chose to let the freedom overwhelm me and let a terrific education pass me by.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 9, 2009

I regret bringing you to the US from your home land 18 years ago. Both of you would have strived for better lives if you weren't given a silver spoon. Now not only two but 5 more lives are suffering and impacted by your selfish and inept decision making. Not only did you not take advantage of the opportunity presented you purposefully chose to self destruct against the love and advise of others. All I wanted to do was to provide a mother you didn't have. Or so I thought we all would have been better off if I left well alone.

Female age 52

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 8, 2009

I regret that I risk my marriage every day with you. I regret that I'm not ready to stop with you or leave my marriage and I regret that sooner or later someone else will probably make this decision for me.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 7, 2009

I regret coming back.

I regret wanting a second chance to make our failing marriage work.

I regret believing you when you said you would try harder.

I regret staying for over a year, and now I can't leave. I'm a stay at home mom and have no income.

I don't regret finding an old friend online and meeting up with him while he was in town and having the best night ever.

I regret letting you tear me down emotionally and verbally, but maybe it was for the better, because my friend built me up in ways I never thought possible again. I felt beautiful, sexy, wonderful, and cared for, for just 6 hrs.

I regret that you can't see past your selfishness and realize that the woman you call names is the one taking care of your children 24 hrs a day.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 6, 2009

I regret complaining about us walking too slow. I regret complaining about you leaning on me for balance.

It was so much harder for you, being handicapped. I was just a kid.

I'm sorry, Mom.

Now more than anything I want to be your crutch.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 5, 2009

I regret being embarrassed to tell my dying brother that I loved him in a hospital room full of family and close friends. now he's gone and I want more than anything to shout it.

I love my brother. I miss him. I can't wait to see him again someday.

F/15

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 4, 2009

I regret not asking you what was wrong. You walked out of your house where you lived with your uncle, wiping tears off your face, hoping no one would notice. I did, but was too concerned with my own life. I regret not telling anyone that I thought something was going on. I regret not saying anything when you sounded so scared to tell him that your bike was locked up in the boys and girls club and you couldn’t get it til the next day. You sounded scared to death and I said nothing. I’m pretty sure you were being abused. You were 10 years old, being abused by your uncle, and I said nothing. I regret that more than anything. And whenever I think of you I wonder how you’re doing, if you’re still with your uncle, if you’re still alive. I wish I had some way to contact you. But I don’t. So now I just live with this silent regret.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 3, 2009

I regret not calling you after I met you for the first time at my high school graduation. I regret never getting to know you, and never really wanting to. I regret not being a part of your life. I regret not understanding why you left her to raise me on her own. I regret not knowing what to do when everyone else is celebrating Fathers Day. I regret that no one taught me how to play baseball or shoot hoops. But most of all dad, I regret the fact that you never made an honest effort to get to know me.

F/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 2, 2009

I regret forcing you into being tied to me the rest of your life with our son. You've knew that I wanted to have a baby with you. And now he's gonna be two. I had to find a way to be connected to you forever because I knew you would never take me back.

Now I have something that women you date would kill for. I know that situation is bad, and you really have true hate for me at times, but I would give it all up again to have you back under the same roof.

And to think I got that abortion because I didn't want to have a child with someone else. I wanted another child, but I thought it would hurt you too much. And to think you are never going to have another child with me, and a child with someone else would just make it worse. That abortion will haunt me forever, as no one knows.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 1, 2009

i regret thinking about you everyday

especially when i know you dont do the same.

i regret thinking id be happy with you

when i know you are happy right now.. with out me

i regret not moving on.

female/19

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